Do you make the rules in your home, or chafe at them?
In every marriage there seems to be one who would like to see the plates all facing the same way in the dishwasher, and one who can't remember which way they are supposed to face.
One who wonders "why can't Spouse remember this? It's so logical. Face the way that the streaming water is coming from, so they get clean". One who wonders why he/she has to hear about propelled water, when the whole damn thing fills up with soapy water anyway. (Or, can't remember what feels like rule #485. )
Or maybe it's not the dishes. It's the laundry, or the toys (being put away or children have to be children and the house will get mess) or the lunchboxes or cleaning the toilets. There are countless things that can be used as the foundation for the subtle ongoing tug of war that is status quo of some marriages.
Why do we have these arguments?
Are they struggles for control? The debates of two people who really should not be living as roommates because of completely different philosophies of life? Just simple stress?
Some people plan. They attack their goals and todos with vigor every morning. They abhor waste, be it time or money. Some people feel pulled in too many directions. They react, rather than driving the agenda of their lives forward. They're always trying to catch up.
I look at the moon, and I wonder. Am I the one who's crazy?
3 comments:
that depends on whether you're the one who wants all the dishes facing the same direction or not.
You're such a jerk.
What if one person waits at home until 7:30 for a person who was supposed to be home by 7, then waits another 30 miutes (during which calls the person twice, and can't reach them, cell phone is not answered), and finally gives up and goes out to dinner alone (passing by the place the other person was, and verifying they are still there...which is not "at work", either...)
who's the jerk? the one who didn't call, or the one who didn't wait for the other for dinner?
My wife likes the silverware in the dishwasher(except for the knives) handle-side down. I prefer to not get funk all over my hands, and so I put them in handle-side up. It's an ongoing battle. I figure if that's the worst thing we argue about, we're doing ok.
As for the not calling thing, yeah, I'm with you on that one. That's jerky behavior by any standard.
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