Hypothetical Sex

Let's say, hypothetically of course, that I was out scrapbooking with an old friend and some of her friends. In their church hall. They are very devout Christian women with fine strong morals and more virtues in their delicate pinkies than in my entire ...universe... hypothetically of course.

Should we all discuss various tv shows we enjoy, and those we don't care for, those very conservative women would hypothetically discuss Shows That Are Just Bad And Wrong and mention, possibly, Sex and the City.

My very most favorite show ever.

They would, given their values and their belief in chastity, fidelity, etc, hypothetically make sweeping statements such as "those women are all sluts, sleeping with one man after another."

Having NEVER watched an entire episode, of course.

As much as it would hypothetically tie knots in my liver, would I refrain from pointing out that these are CHARACTERS on a TV SHOW which examines issues of sexuality from various viewpoints - issues which might be of great interest for healthy, (gasp!) sexually active women?

That Miranda was very cynical, but somewhat willing to explore new things, Charlotte was a hopeless romantic and rather uptight, Samantha was very comfortable with exploring all things sexual.... allowing lively discussions/debates in the coffeshop.

That Carrie was the common thread (because really, would these women know each other and be friends for any other reason?) and the narrator, the moderator, trying to take in these drastically different viewpoints and find the ones that were right for her. That truly, Samantha was the only character who WANTED promiscuity, preferring to sleep with one man after another, rather than seeking 'the right guy' and permanence, and in the end even she realized that's what she truly wanted. (Damn he was cute, too...)

And would one monogamous relationship per female have been able to realistically depict ALL of these issues arising? It's about telling stories. Many stories, to explore many subjects. It's sex ed 1001, and every college freshwoman should have to watch them all. Hell, the boys too, dammit. Know what you want, what you don't want, and be willing to entertain the idea that your idea of sexuality may be very different from someone else's, but neither of you would necessarily be WRONG.

How lucky these women are to be married, and not "dating", especially in today's reality. Not having to let their guard down again and again... not to know how hard it is to get back up on the bicycle when you've done a face plant into a mud puddle. To be spared the pain of THINKING "this is it, he's the one" and feel the joy of the intimacy that our bodies were designed for...by divine hand or evolution, tee hee....and then have that person abruptly vanish from your life.

But hypothetically, I would just sit there with my impure, seriously-in-the-minority at-that- moment thoughts and not say a word and smile to myself, because hypothetically, I'm probably going to buy that pretty pink boxed set on Amazon.